Women and marriage

What is it about women and companionship, commitment and marriage?
Notice how they are arranged. First is the need for companionship and as soon as that objective has been realised, the need for commitment arises followed by a strong desire to formalise the commitment through marriage. If you are a young man dating a woman in her prime who is telling you that marriage is not important to them..smile at them and say "I believe you. Thanks for being so honest and frank with me" I then want you to follow her "I don't want to get married" comment with "I think marriage can be good if you find the right match" and say that you are open to the idea should the right person come along.. and I want you to notice how her response will do a 360 degree anticlockwise turn to "I guess there is no harm in getting hitched..like you said..if the right person comes along, why not? After this conversation, Your girlfriend or date will go from casual to commited overnight. She will start doing extra nice things for you that will start annoying you and cause the relationship to end. She will lose the very same spontaneity that attracted you to her in the first place. She will discard all psychological rules of love and cling to you like gum. And we all know the ending.."Men are all the same..They only want one thing.. They don't want to commit yet we see men getting married all the time. It's high time that women pay attention to the three fingers that's pointing back at them as they are blaming men for their failed relationships.
Now, let's explore the question ..Why women want to get married..?
What is it about marriage that makes women go ga-ga..
Is it the security that comes with having a permanent partner, though a lot of divorced people will argue my use of the word permanent..
They will argue that nothing in life is permanent by I will argue further by claiming that my mental peace is permanent.
You see nothing and no one can rock my mental boat no matter how stormy their suggestions maybe, I will remain anchored and stable.
Even if I have mental peace I still long for the assurance of marriage.
Marriage makes you feel safe and gives you a sense of belonging that I think is the number one reason why women want to get married.
You want to be registered as belonging to Mr so and so.
Some feminists and non-feminists alike can argue that they don't want to get married and that they are happy and complete as single, single moms, divorcees, separated etc. That they don't share my longing for companionship..Today, one of my girlfriends, who is 28, told me that unlike me she'd be fine if she turns 40 and is still not married. I don't buy it but who am I to question her conviction, she may be an exception to the rule. Exceptions are a part of life?
But I still think that she was lying through her teeth but I cannot prove it because I can't make her take a lie detector test.
Here's my challenge to all straight single women out there that strongly feel that they’ be okay with not having a life partner to share a future with, kindly contact me on +27 83 379 1957 so I can arrange a lie detector test that you will have to take under the strictest surveillance which includes TV cameras and crew. A special website will be constructed solely for the publication of your story and if you pass the test , I personally commit to raising $100, 000 as prize money for your bravery. This is an international competition and all women from all over the globe are welcome to participate
Anyone up for the challenge? My cellphone is open 24 hours a day and if you ever wanted to publicly make a statement, the chance is NOW..to become an overnight celebrity. Let’s set the matter straight once and for all.
The question is not Do you need a man to be happy. The question is You have no desire at all to share a future with someone? Sharing your future could translate into lifetime partner or marriage partner. Not wanting to get married like Oprah Winfrey does not mean that she wishes Stegman was not there. She has someone she can rely on, and that's what I m talking about..I realise that as you get older(40 and above) the desire to get married is drastically reduced..thus my focus which is mainly on women over 25 and under 40 who has never been married. Not women in same sex relationships because I can't really relate emotionally with them in terms of their desire for lifetime companionship but they are more than welcome to write to me at tumi.magongoa@gmail.com and school me on the similarities and their take on things. If they feel that the need for companionship is a universal phenomenon that cannot be escaped by any means, then the competition will be open to all. Anything and everything to create awareness around unhappy single women in denial who have been living and broadcasting lies in the hope that they will not be found out. If you have been lying to your mates, run a mile cause I am coming for you.