What is age? Dr Deepak Chopra said that there are three different kind of ages..The chronological age is the one that appears on your ID document, passport and drivers license. The one that people ask you about when they are trying to get to know you.
The second type is the psychological age which has everything to do with your state of mind for example the kind of thoughts you hold in your head determines your age. If you feel young at heart, you probably are. If you feel old, chances are your consciousness will reflect this.
The last type is the biological age, which is the state of your physical body. Are you 22 years old, yet you are suffering from old people's disease like heart attack, diabetes, obesity etc. An unhealthy body negatively affects your lifespan thus speeding up your ageing proces. Obesity can cause all kinds of biological complications that will ultimately lead to an early death. If you are 50 and have never been sick, you are probably operating at a physiological age of a 20 something year old, which means that your body has the energy to effectively carry out the physical activities of a 25 year old with great ease. He continued to say that a real determinant of age is not your chronological age, but the pshychological and biological age and the good news about the last two is that they can be reversed. If you nurture your pshycological and physiological being and keep them away from "sickness" , chances are you can successfully defy ageing and your chronological age becomes just another number.
So taking the above into consideration..My age analysis is as follows..Chronologically 29, Psychologically 39, Physiologically 19. I have the wisdom of a 40 year old, the innocence of a 20 year old and the shockin reality of a 30 year old. What does all of this mean? It means don't rush things based on your age, afterall age is just a number, but don't drag things either. Your age can be a great guide in terms of universal timing so don't ignore it completely, it has some use.
Thursday, October 25, 2007
Wednesday, October 24, 2007
On sex before marriage
The best thing to do is to wait to have sex until you are married but if you couldn't wait like me, just be responsible about it. Enough said. Why give you a lecture on a subject that you can research for yourself through your own experiences.. I think lessons about love and sex are individual and self-research based and were never meant to be spoonfed. I could be wrong but that's my belief. I am of the view that we learn more efficiently when we experience things for ourselves instead of being told what to expect.Whether you choose to get down and dirty before or after marriage, it really doesn't make that much of a difference if you promise to act responsibly in either situation cause there are plenty of irresponsible married adults who are having sex and the consequences are fatal. It's not enough to be smart, you have to act smart too. Peer pressure has a place in your growth but not in your future.
On turning 30
Ever since I turned 25, I just wished people would stop counting. I'ts like the more I aged, the younger my friendships became. I moved from being the youngest to being the next oldest in the group, the fact that I look years younger did nothing to ease my frustration. The reality is that I am getting old with nothing to show for it. No husband, no kids, no career boom, no overflowing bank account. The injustice I felt was insummountable..but I have now learnt to accept responsibility for my under-achievement by changing strategy. Anyway, enough rattling for one article, let's get to the jist of the matter, the reason why I decided to write about turning 30.
I remember when I first heard Aaliyah's song "Age aint nothing but a number", I think it was back in 1996 when I said to myself.."how dillusional of her because she is dating R. Kelly she all of a sudden wants to justify hooking up with an older brother by telling us that age is only a digit?"
When the song first played on the radio, I think I was still a teenager which explains my then youthful, raw and inexperienced "dillusional" reaction to the song. I said a lot of NEVER's back then and one of them being that I'll never hide my age from anybody subsequently getting enraged from reading articles where women were reluctant in revealing their age.
I remember at the time that all I wanted to achieve was turning 21 because turning 21 meant getting your parents off your back in terms of decision making. Turning 21 for me meant the huge celebration which is usually followed by Total Freedom from all imprisonment..I was looking forward to getting older in fact, all I could think about was getting older but now all I can think about is staying young.
Now that I am 29, my wish is for time to just stand still and the world clock to stop running. Now I can passionately identify with the lyrics "Age aint nothing but a number" because the thought of turning 30 scares the living daylights out of me. It's like time is getting smaller and smaller with every month that passes. I wouldn't say that it's the age thing that depresses me but I think it is the unrealised goals that frightens me. More shame than fright. I have met girls over and under 30 whom I think should not be bothered by age because they are living the "young girl" dream. The "young girl "dream is stability by 30 all around inclusive of career, finances, family, socially etc. To me the young girl dream means not compromising and settling on what you want and so far my track record is filled with compromises.
If I were to do a goal check on career, finances, family and social life, the only place that will get a tick would be my social life and morality which deserve raving reviews as the actual results far exceed target. I have lived the cleanest life I could live and socialized the best way I learned how but as for the rest of the goals, it is back to the drawing board for me since they all scored in the negative with finance scoring the lowest.
My spending has drastically reduced, but not drastic enough to make a positive impact. I learnt that the greatest secret to getting rich is not by drastically cutting down, but it is by drastically increasing your income yet keeping your expenditure constant. It is by coming up with innovative ideas of generating more money accompanied by an equally innovative and courageous spirit to execute. I must admit that I have been overperforming on the ideas but under-delivering on the execution..I need to start being very procedural on the planning and very stringent on the timing. My friend said to me yesterday, that I am going to expire next year when I turn 30. She was making fun of me and she is 28 which means as soon as I turn 30, there will be exactly, 6 months before she also turns 30 as her birthdate is April 79 and mine September 78..Very disparaging of her to pass such a remark but I guess I deserve it after constantly making our other friend feel bad for being unmarried at 35. My friend Nong used to say that "marriage is not a degree" obviously responding to the repeated pressure that women place on men to get married. I don't expect him to relate so I never engaged with him on this one. The answer is simple..The kick that women get out of the desire to want to get married is the same kind of kick that men get out of the desire to succeed in business. No one desire can claim superiority over another because the depth and value of the need is unknown. Too personal to accurately gauge.
I remember when I first heard Aaliyah's song "Age aint nothing but a number", I think it was back in 1996 when I said to myself.."how dillusional of her because she is dating R. Kelly she all of a sudden wants to justify hooking up with an older brother by telling us that age is only a digit?"
When the song first played on the radio, I think I was still a teenager which explains my then youthful, raw and inexperienced "dillusional" reaction to the song. I said a lot of NEVER's back then and one of them being that I'll never hide my age from anybody subsequently getting enraged from reading articles where women were reluctant in revealing their age.
I remember at the time that all I wanted to achieve was turning 21 because turning 21 meant getting your parents off your back in terms of decision making. Turning 21 for me meant the huge celebration which is usually followed by Total Freedom from all imprisonment..I was looking forward to getting older in fact, all I could think about was getting older but now all I can think about is staying young.
Now that I am 29, my wish is for time to just stand still and the world clock to stop running. Now I can passionately identify with the lyrics "Age aint nothing but a number" because the thought of turning 30 scares the living daylights out of me. It's like time is getting smaller and smaller with every month that passes. I wouldn't say that it's the age thing that depresses me but I think it is the unrealised goals that frightens me. More shame than fright. I have met girls over and under 30 whom I think should not be bothered by age because they are living the "young girl" dream. The "young girl "dream is stability by 30 all around inclusive of career, finances, family, socially etc. To me the young girl dream means not compromising and settling on what you want and so far my track record is filled with compromises.
If I were to do a goal check on career, finances, family and social life, the only place that will get a tick would be my social life and morality which deserve raving reviews as the actual results far exceed target. I have lived the cleanest life I could live and socialized the best way I learned how but as for the rest of the goals, it is back to the drawing board for me since they all scored in the negative with finance scoring the lowest.
My spending has drastically reduced, but not drastic enough to make a positive impact. I learnt that the greatest secret to getting rich is not by drastically cutting down, but it is by drastically increasing your income yet keeping your expenditure constant. It is by coming up with innovative ideas of generating more money accompanied by an equally innovative and courageous spirit to execute. I must admit that I have been overperforming on the ideas but under-delivering on the execution..I need to start being very procedural on the planning and very stringent on the timing. My friend said to me yesterday, that I am going to expire next year when I turn 30. She was making fun of me and she is 28 which means as soon as I turn 30, there will be exactly, 6 months before she also turns 30 as her birthdate is April 79 and mine September 78..Very disparaging of her to pass such a remark but I guess I deserve it after constantly making our other friend feel bad for being unmarried at 35. My friend Nong used to say that "marriage is not a degree" obviously responding to the repeated pressure that women place on men to get married. I don't expect him to relate so I never engaged with him on this one. The answer is simple..The kick that women get out of the desire to want to get married is the same kind of kick that men get out of the desire to succeed in business. No one desire can claim superiority over another because the depth and value of the need is unknown. Too personal to accurately gauge.
On dating younger men
Maaaann, what a daunting topic..the rules that are applicable to you are the rules that you must set for yourself in terms of career, relationships, finances, family etc.
Some of the societal rules that are being enforced upon mankind are ridiculously restrictive and may cause a lot of resentment if not adapted to suit the person or the situation at hand. People have different life exposures which may result in equally unorthodox approaches to life.
I used to be one of those people who thought that dating young is sinful and should not be allowed to happen. My view was very gender biased as I am female and I strongly felt that women who date younger men has a psychological condition that calls for urgent therapeutic intervention.
I thought how relationship desperate can you get that you'd resort to dating and even marrying a younger man. I thought dating young was a product of a hopeless powerful executive and the ill-bred toyboy who only want to score financially.
Little did I know that one of these days I will become that woman but the shocking discovery was that when it happened I was just an ordinary office worker who had not extra cash to distribute and that my partner at the time..was not a money scorer but was in it because of his genuine liking for me which was demonstrated by all the dinner and movie bills that he settled without asking for a cent from me. Besides I don't even think that he knew that I was older because I look like a "sweet 16", not a day older than 21, FRESH OUT OF THE FARM, springchicken from woolies. Hence my love for make-up because it adds a couple of years to my youthful look, not that I want to look my age, but looking young has its own disadvantages like being approached by a younger market because they mistake you for a youngster. The challenge about being approached by younger men is the difference in mindset because socially, you are at remotely diverse places. He wants to explore, discover and learn, but you have discovered and learned and all you want to do is teach and grow. For more information on the life growth stages as established by me, please see the post called life's purpose situation in this very blog.
Even though I sound comfortable talking about my young squeeze, the weirdest thing is that I never asked for his age because I thought that I wouldn't be able to sleep if I knew..I figured if he was still at varsity on a full time basis, the chances are he has not turned 25 yet. so I let the age thing lie besides he was not an SA citizen so that helped in easing the conscience. I thought to myself "soon this will be over, so I don't have to know". But imangine if he stayed and never left.. Would I continue with the relationship. The answer is capital YES. I'd still confidently date him because he was an amazing man and I don't regret ever getting involved with him. Besides he was a total dish, too gorgeous to eat....Tall, lean, handsome, moved like a tiger yet he had the most reassuring smile I have ever seen. Being with him felt safe and secure, yet wild and exciting at the same time..I always felt protected when I was around him.
So if you have never dated young before..My advise for you is to not plan for it but to go with the flow if and when it happens. Life is too short to be worried about what others think of you..As long as you are not hurting anybody in the process, then by all means GO HAVE SOME FUN and who knows, your encounter with a younger man may end up permanent..which is fine just as long you both are fine..
Some of the societal rules that are being enforced upon mankind are ridiculously restrictive and may cause a lot of resentment if not adapted to suit the person or the situation at hand. People have different life exposures which may result in equally unorthodox approaches to life.
I used to be one of those people who thought that dating young is sinful and should not be allowed to happen. My view was very gender biased as I am female and I strongly felt that women who date younger men has a psychological condition that calls for urgent therapeutic intervention.
I thought how relationship desperate can you get that you'd resort to dating and even marrying a younger man. I thought dating young was a product of a hopeless powerful executive and the ill-bred toyboy who only want to score financially.
Little did I know that one of these days I will become that woman but the shocking discovery was that when it happened I was just an ordinary office worker who had not extra cash to distribute and that my partner at the time..was not a money scorer but was in it because of his genuine liking for me which was demonstrated by all the dinner and movie bills that he settled without asking for a cent from me. Besides I don't even think that he knew that I was older because I look like a "sweet 16", not a day older than 21, FRESH OUT OF THE FARM, springchicken from woolies. Hence my love for make-up because it adds a couple of years to my youthful look, not that I want to look my age, but looking young has its own disadvantages like being approached by a younger market because they mistake you for a youngster. The challenge about being approached by younger men is the difference in mindset because socially, you are at remotely diverse places. He wants to explore, discover and learn, but you have discovered and learned and all you want to do is teach and grow. For more information on the life growth stages as established by me, please see the post called life's purpose situation in this very blog.
Even though I sound comfortable talking about my young squeeze, the weirdest thing is that I never asked for his age because I thought that I wouldn't be able to sleep if I knew..I figured if he was still at varsity on a full time basis, the chances are he has not turned 25 yet. so I let the age thing lie besides he was not an SA citizen so that helped in easing the conscience. I thought to myself "soon this will be over, so I don't have to know". But imangine if he stayed and never left.. Would I continue with the relationship. The answer is capital YES. I'd still confidently date him because he was an amazing man and I don't regret ever getting involved with him. Besides he was a total dish, too gorgeous to eat....Tall, lean, handsome, moved like a tiger yet he had the most reassuring smile I have ever seen. Being with him felt safe and secure, yet wild and exciting at the same time..I always felt protected when I was around him.
So if you have never dated young before..My advise for you is to not plan for it but to go with the flow if and when it happens. Life is too short to be worried about what others think of you..As long as you are not hurting anybody in the process, then by all means GO HAVE SOME FUN and who knows, your encounter with a younger man may end up permanent..which is fine just as long you both are fine..
Tuesday, October 23, 2007
Women and marriage
What is it about women and companionship, commitment and marriage?
Notice how they are arranged. First is the need for companionship and as soon as that objective has been realised, the need for commitment arises followed by a strong desire to formalise the commitment through marriage. If you are a young man dating a woman in her prime who is telling you that marriage is not important to them..smile at them and say "I believe you. Thanks for being so honest and frank with me" I then want you to follow her "I don't want to get married" comment with "I think marriage can be good if you find the right match" and say that you are open to the idea should the right person come along.. and I want you to notice how her response will do a 360 degree anticlockwise turn to "I guess there is no harm in getting hitched..like you said..if the right person comes along, why not? After this conversation, Your girlfriend or date will go from casual to commited overnight. She will start doing extra nice things for you that will start annoying you and cause the relationship to end. She will lose the very same spontaneity that attracted you to her in the first place. She will discard all psychological rules of love and cling to you like gum. And we all know the ending.."Men are all the same..They only want one thing.. They don't want to commit yet we see men getting married all the time. It's high time that women pay attention to the three fingers that's pointing back at them as they are blaming men for their failed relationships.
Now, let's explore the question ..Why women want to get married..?
What is it about marriage that makes women go ga-ga..
Is it the security that comes with having a permanent partner, though a lot of divorced people will argue my use of the word permanent..
They will argue that nothing in life is permanent by I will argue further by claiming that my mental peace is permanent.
You see nothing and no one can rock my mental boat no matter how stormy their suggestions maybe, I will remain anchored and stable.
Even if I have mental peace I still long for the assurance of marriage.
Marriage makes you feel safe and gives you a sense of belonging that I think is the number one reason why women want to get married.
You want to be registered as belonging to Mr so and so.
Some feminists and non-feminists alike can argue that they don't want to get married and that they are happy and complete as single, single moms, divorcees, separated etc. That they don't share my longing for companionship..Today, one of my girlfriends, who is 28, told me that unlike me she'd be fine if she turns 40 and is still not married. I don't buy it but who am I to question her conviction, she may be an exception to the rule. Exceptions are a part of life?
But I still think that she was lying through her teeth but I cannot prove it because I can't make her take a lie detector test.
Here's my challenge to all straight single women out there that strongly feel that they’ be okay with not having a life partner to share a future with, kindly contact me on +27 83 379 1957 so I can arrange a lie detector test that you will have to take under the strictest surveillance which includes TV cameras and crew. A special website will be constructed solely for the publication of your story and if you pass the test , I personally commit to raising $100, 000 as prize money for your bravery. This is an international competition and all women from all over the globe are welcome to participate
Anyone up for the challenge? My cellphone is open 24 hours a day and if you ever wanted to publicly make a statement, the chance is NOW..to become an overnight celebrity. Let’s set the matter straight once and for all.
The question is not Do you need a man to be happy. The question is You have no desire at all to share a future with someone? Sharing your future could translate into lifetime partner or marriage partner. Not wanting to get married like Oprah Winfrey does not mean that she wishes Stegman was not there. She has someone she can rely on, and that's what I m talking about..I realise that as you get older(40 and above) the desire to get married is drastically reduced..thus my focus which is mainly on women over 25 and under 40 who has never been married. Not women in same sex relationships because I can't really relate emotionally with them in terms of their desire for lifetime companionship but they are more than welcome to write to me at tumi.magongoa@gmail.com and school me on the similarities and their take on things. If they feel that the need for companionship is a universal phenomenon that cannot be escaped by any means, then the competition will be open to all. Anything and everything to create awareness around unhappy single women in denial who have been living and broadcasting lies in the hope that they will not be found out. If you have been lying to your mates, run a mile cause I am coming for you.
Notice how they are arranged. First is the need for companionship and as soon as that objective has been realised, the need for commitment arises followed by a strong desire to formalise the commitment through marriage. If you are a young man dating a woman in her prime who is telling you that marriage is not important to them..smile at them and say "I believe you. Thanks for being so honest and frank with me" I then want you to follow her "I don't want to get married" comment with "I think marriage can be good if you find the right match" and say that you are open to the idea should the right person come along.. and I want you to notice how her response will do a 360 degree anticlockwise turn to "I guess there is no harm in getting hitched..like you said..if the right person comes along, why not? After this conversation, Your girlfriend or date will go from casual to commited overnight. She will start doing extra nice things for you that will start annoying you and cause the relationship to end. She will lose the very same spontaneity that attracted you to her in the first place. She will discard all psychological rules of love and cling to you like gum. And we all know the ending.."Men are all the same..They only want one thing.. They don't want to commit yet we see men getting married all the time. It's high time that women pay attention to the three fingers that's pointing back at them as they are blaming men for their failed relationships.
Now, let's explore the question ..Why women want to get married..?
What is it about marriage that makes women go ga-ga..
Is it the security that comes with having a permanent partner, though a lot of divorced people will argue my use of the word permanent..
They will argue that nothing in life is permanent by I will argue further by claiming that my mental peace is permanent.
You see nothing and no one can rock my mental boat no matter how stormy their suggestions maybe, I will remain anchored and stable.
Even if I have mental peace I still long for the assurance of marriage.
Marriage makes you feel safe and gives you a sense of belonging that I think is the number one reason why women want to get married.
You want to be registered as belonging to Mr so and so.
Some feminists and non-feminists alike can argue that they don't want to get married and that they are happy and complete as single, single moms, divorcees, separated etc. That they don't share my longing for companionship..Today, one of my girlfriends, who is 28, told me that unlike me she'd be fine if she turns 40 and is still not married. I don't buy it but who am I to question her conviction, she may be an exception to the rule. Exceptions are a part of life?
But I still think that she was lying through her teeth but I cannot prove it because I can't make her take a lie detector test.
Here's my challenge to all straight single women out there that strongly feel that they’ be okay with not having a life partner to share a future with, kindly contact me on +27 83 379 1957 so I can arrange a lie detector test that you will have to take under the strictest surveillance which includes TV cameras and crew. A special website will be constructed solely for the publication of your story and if you pass the test , I personally commit to raising $100, 000 as prize money for your bravery. This is an international competition and all women from all over the globe are welcome to participate
Anyone up for the challenge? My cellphone is open 24 hours a day and if you ever wanted to publicly make a statement, the chance is NOW..to become an overnight celebrity. Let’s set the matter straight once and for all.
The question is not Do you need a man to be happy. The question is You have no desire at all to share a future with someone? Sharing your future could translate into lifetime partner or marriage partner. Not wanting to get married like Oprah Winfrey does not mean that she wishes Stegman was not there. She has someone she can rely on, and that's what I m talking about..I realise that as you get older(40 and above) the desire to get married is drastically reduced..thus my focus which is mainly on women over 25 and under 40 who has never been married. Not women in same sex relationships because I can't really relate emotionally with them in terms of their desire for lifetime companionship but they are more than welcome to write to me at tumi.magongoa@gmail.com and school me on the similarities and their take on things. If they feel that the need for companionship is a universal phenomenon that cannot be escaped by any means, then the competition will be open to all. Anything and everything to create awareness around unhappy single women in denial who have been living and broadcasting lies in the hope that they will not be found out. If you have been lying to your mates, run a mile cause I am coming for you.
Life's Purpose
Have you ever seriously considered what life's purpose is? I mean seriously considered your purpose in life. I figured that there's one purpose in life that is to be better today than you were yesterday..but what does it mean?
It means your life must consist of the folowing..
1. You must explore
2. You must discover
3. You must learn
4. You must teach
5. You must Grow
Lots of people lead unhappy lives because they lack the courage and bravery that is needed to make that one bold step into the world of discovery. God does not make things happen for people, God points towards the action and man has to make it happen. In Setwana, there is a saying that goes..kgomo go tsoswa e e itsosang which means that the universe has no time for victim mentality...If you want to see things happen, you must learn to rely less on God, fate and destiny and more on your abilities to start actioning the belief and faith that you so dearly hold in your heart. No point in having hope if the mind is not up to explore. Hope means that the only time that you are going to see the light at the end of the tunnel is if you created it. The only time you are going to experience a miracle in your life, is if you create it as God has given you the intelligence and wisdom to make your own glory and not steal it from others. Victory can never truly be yours, if you have never worked for it. There are no ready made answers, effortless dreams and concidental achievements. If you haven't worked for it, you cannot claim it. If you falsely make a claim over someone's victory, it will soon be reclaimed because if you don't have the wisdom to find it, chances are you lack the wisdom to keep it.
It means your life must consist of the folowing..
1. You must explore
2. You must discover
3. You must learn
4. You must teach
5. You must Grow
- To explore
- To discover
- To learn
- To Teach
- To Grow
Lots of people lead unhappy lives because they lack the courage and bravery that is needed to make that one bold step into the world of discovery. God does not make things happen for people, God points towards the action and man has to make it happen. In Setwana, there is a saying that goes..kgomo go tsoswa e e itsosang which means that the universe has no time for victim mentality...If you want to see things happen, you must learn to rely less on God, fate and destiny and more on your abilities to start actioning the belief and faith that you so dearly hold in your heart. No point in having hope if the mind is not up to explore. Hope means that the only time that you are going to see the light at the end of the tunnel is if you created it. The only time you are going to experience a miracle in your life, is if you create it as God has given you the intelligence and wisdom to make your own glory and not steal it from others. Victory can never truly be yours, if you have never worked for it. There are no ready made answers, effortless dreams and concidental achievements. If you haven't worked for it, you cannot claim it. If you falsely make a claim over someone's victory, it will soon be reclaimed because if you don't have the wisdom to find it, chances are you lack the wisdom to keep it.
Monday, October 22, 2007
10 glittering reasons to be proudly South African
SA Post 1994 successes as a result of the Madiba Magic
1. Hosting of the 2010 Soccer World CUP
2. 2007 Rugby world cup victory over England.
3. The Blockbuster Tsotsi winning an Oscar Award
4. Oprah Winfrey's premier investment in education in SA
5. SABC's Home Affairs(drama) and Sorted(comedy) receiving three nominations for the 35th International Emmy Awards
6. 1984 Desmond Tutu and 1993(FW De Klerk & Nelson Mandela) Nobel Peace Laureates
7. The movie Yesterday starring Lelethi Khumalo nominated for an Oscar
8. Lady Smith Black Mambazo won the Grammy Award for Best Traditional World Music Album
9. Soweto Gospel Choir wins a Grammy Award in the Best Trraditional World Music Category
10. Charlize Theron becomes the first South African to win an Oscar
1. Hosting of the 2010 Soccer World CUP
2. 2007 Rugby world cup victory over England.
3. The Blockbuster Tsotsi winning an Oscar Award
4. Oprah Winfrey's premier investment in education in SA
5. SABC's Home Affairs(drama) and Sorted(comedy) receiving three nominations for the 35th International Emmy Awards
6. 1984 Desmond Tutu and 1993(FW De Klerk & Nelson Mandela) Nobel Peace Laureates
7. The movie Yesterday starring Lelethi Khumalo nominated for an Oscar
8. Lady Smith Black Mambazo won the Grammy Award for Best Traditional World Music Album
9. Soweto Gospel Choir wins a Grammy Award in the Best Trraditional World Music Category
10. Charlize Theron becomes the first South African to win an Oscar
Real Activism is a Rare Skill
Real activism not the toy-toying around that we see today is a rare skill.
It takes a great deal of bravery to speak your mind and stand up for your rights especially in a political or work environment.
Everybody knows that challenging your employer or a statesman is not always the wisest thing to do as it may block your path.
I know many a people whose career lives suddenly reached a cul-de-sac because they challenged the "wrong people".
Wrong meaning people in the position of power, people who have the capacity to either make you or break you.
But there are those activists that deserve to fry in the enemy pan because they lack tact. Activism does not mean devilism.
There is a manner to raise concerns and hurling insults at the other party and calling them names has never gone universally unpunished and the sooner the people learn this, the better.
Every act, good or bad has its own karmic debt, with its own retribution date, guaranteed to give you the same satisfaction as the one endured by your victim.
If you hurt, you will be hurt, if you hate, you will be hated, if you gossip, you will be gossiped about and if you spread love, you will be loved.
This universal law of attraction does not err. Hence the saying do unto others, what you would like done unto you.
You can't humiliate people and not expect to be humiliated yourself and the sad part is that none of us have control over the day when everything will be coming back to us. Hence the constant preaching in temples, churches and mosques, to try and do good to others, so that the next generation can follow in the love footsteps.
Most people don't like politicians because they say that they are habitual liars that overpromise and never deliver. The public has very high expectation of our public figures and they feel like the politicians owe it to them to lead the best lives they can live and to never put a single foot wrong.
I agree that they must strive to live exemplary but I think we should not grind them up the moment they falter. We can report on their mistakes but not on their person. What happened to playing the ball and not the person. Why does everybody want to play dirty nowadays. People no longer pay attention to the ramifications of their actions, because they think that thy are immune to the laws of the universe.
What makes you think that you can get away with degrading a person without getting degraded yourself?
Take the Dr. Manto Tshabalala-Msimang saga. She is not my relative or anything, so nobody sent me. The activist in me couldn't just let it go without asking the question, What stopped Mondi Makhanya, the Sunday Times editor from reporting her theft allegations, power and alcohol abuse allegations without having to call her a kleptomaniac, alcoholic etc. as none of these psychological conditions have been proven?
I am not asking the media to go easy on wrong-doers but I am asking them to apply due consideration in their report writing. There is no payoff in writing dirty but there are consequences to that. You might go the naive route and say it won't happen to me cause "I live responsibly and watch every step", but here's a warning to all those media people who thrive on sensationalism... "no walk in life is guaranteed..one of these days, you will accidentally miss a step, come rolling down the stairs and guess what? The whole nation will be watching and laughing while your media colleaques will be clicking away at your downfall...zero empathy given"
The law of attraction is alive and well and if you think, it won't catch up with you cause you are too fast for it..I feel sorry for you because iyeza nakuwe(its coming to you). The chances are that you will be caught off guard and I am told that the offguarfd fall is usually the hardest and the most memorable..
It takes a great deal of bravery to speak your mind and stand up for your rights especially in a political or work environment.
Everybody knows that challenging your employer or a statesman is not always the wisest thing to do as it may block your path.
I know many a people whose career lives suddenly reached a cul-de-sac because they challenged the "wrong people".
Wrong meaning people in the position of power, people who have the capacity to either make you or break you.
But there are those activists that deserve to fry in the enemy pan because they lack tact. Activism does not mean devilism.
There is a manner to raise concerns and hurling insults at the other party and calling them names has never gone universally unpunished and the sooner the people learn this, the better.
Every act, good or bad has its own karmic debt, with its own retribution date, guaranteed to give you the same satisfaction as the one endured by your victim.
If you hurt, you will be hurt, if you hate, you will be hated, if you gossip, you will be gossiped about and if you spread love, you will be loved.
This universal law of attraction does not err. Hence the saying do unto others, what you would like done unto you.
You can't humiliate people and not expect to be humiliated yourself and the sad part is that none of us have control over the day when everything will be coming back to us. Hence the constant preaching in temples, churches and mosques, to try and do good to others, so that the next generation can follow in the love footsteps.
Most people don't like politicians because they say that they are habitual liars that overpromise and never deliver. The public has very high expectation of our public figures and they feel like the politicians owe it to them to lead the best lives they can live and to never put a single foot wrong.
I agree that they must strive to live exemplary but I think we should not grind them up the moment they falter. We can report on their mistakes but not on their person. What happened to playing the ball and not the person. Why does everybody want to play dirty nowadays. People no longer pay attention to the ramifications of their actions, because they think that thy are immune to the laws of the universe.
What makes you think that you can get away with degrading a person without getting degraded yourself?
Take the Dr. Manto Tshabalala-Msimang saga. She is not my relative or anything, so nobody sent me. The activist in me couldn't just let it go without asking the question, What stopped Mondi Makhanya, the Sunday Times editor from reporting her theft allegations, power and alcohol abuse allegations without having to call her a kleptomaniac, alcoholic etc. as none of these psychological conditions have been proven?
I am not asking the media to go easy on wrong-doers but I am asking them to apply due consideration in their report writing. There is no payoff in writing dirty but there are consequences to that. You might go the naive route and say it won't happen to me cause "I live responsibly and watch every step", but here's a warning to all those media people who thrive on sensationalism... "no walk in life is guaranteed..one of these days, you will accidentally miss a step, come rolling down the stairs and guess what? The whole nation will be watching and laughing while your media colleaques will be clicking away at your downfall...zero empathy given"
The law of attraction is alive and well and if you think, it won't catch up with you cause you are too fast for it..I feel sorry for you because iyeza nakuwe(its coming to you). The chances are that you will be caught off guard and I am told that the offguarfd fall is usually the hardest and the most memorable..
Friday, October 19, 2007
Heaven and Hell myth explained
Phew! What a delicate topic..I know that most people don't want to go there and would advise me not to even get close to this point..but knowing me I'll ignore all warnings and go anyway coz I am a risk taker and I love to gamble...If something is bugging me..Ignoring it won't help..confronting it always works.I consider my opinions to be facts because all opinions posted here were aggressively interrogated and rigorously researched by myself and have passed the credibility test according to my standards.
What is a fact? According to the encarta dictionary, the following definitions refer to fact.1. Something known to be true: something that can be shown to be true, to exist, or to have happened2. Truth or reality of something: the truth or actual existence of something, as opposed to the supposition of something or a belief about something3. Piece of information: a piece of information, e.g. a statistic or a statement of the truth4. Law actual course of events: the circumstances of an event or state of affairs, rather than an interpretation of its significanceMatters of fact are issues for a jury, while matters of law are issues for the court.5. Law something based on evidence: something that is based on or concerned with the evidence presented in a legal case
My definition of fact is a combination of 1 and 2….Something that can be shown to have happened as opposed to the supposition of something or a belief about somethingI say that Heaven and hell exist but not as a pie in the sky somewhere or a roasting place at the darkest corner of the world but heaven and hell are infact right here, right now and someone out there is living either one of them.Paradise is amongst us and if you want to live it then I suggest you start following every clue that will lead you to it, the same goes for the hell fire.The clues are quite easy to spot...Some of the clues for heaven are:Being the best that you can be morally, socially, financially, physically, mentally and soon you will enter paradise.
If you set a goal and align everyone of your efforts with your goal, soon you will experience an overwhelming abundance of everything..money, health, friends, ideas, charisma etc and you will be left wondering "I thought heaven was only found at the end of time!"..The ultimate state of bliss that everybody is striving for where disease does not exist, where everybody adores you, where there are infinite zeroes in your bank account, where every fantasy becomes a reality, that is what I call paradise my friend..But Paradise like truth is relative. Depending on how you view it, that's exactly how you are going to experience it. Paradise is a state of mind where everything is just sooo perfect and sooo heavenly.. I have been to paradise and back a couple of times before and I know that if I stay hopeful, I might get to see it again.
What about hell? Have I been there too? Oh Yes! More than a couple of times and every hell visit is worse than the previous one. The stay is usually longer and the days are a drag..like it was designed just so you could feel every discomfort and taste every bitterness..You want to know how I got there..I'll tell you how I got there..I was selfish, greedy, thought I was untouchable, thought I had life all figured out and that I could outsmart every trick that the life throws at me, solve every riddle and complete every puzzle.I did solve the mystery alright and complete the puzzle, but I got outsmarted in the process.For every step I took, life placed 2 steps forward, doubling count at every turn and increasing pace at the same time, until I was out of breath and could not keep up anymore.I lost because I was outwitted by the universe..but you know what, my loss was my choice.Hell is as a result of playing dirty and you might have won fights in the past, but that does not guarantee that you will win the battle.Here are a few clues that might mean hell is not far away for you..Lying, cheating, killing etc and killing does not only mean physical death, people spirits can also be killed and their dignity destroyed, health can also be killed by drugs, future destroyed by cheating and hope destroyed by lies. Which invitation are you using to RSVP your way into hell? Check yourself before you check yourself into hell. I have laid my facts on the line for your scrutiny and I know that you know somebody that knows somebody that has been through hell and/or heaven and have lived to tell the tale but I have not seen nor heard of anybody that has been to a physical space called heaven or hell and have lived to tell the tale. Therefore I conclude that heaven and hell are right here with us..and how you end up in anyone of them is entirely your choice.Choose your destiny well after all your are its master..Over and Out
What is a fact? According to the encarta dictionary, the following definitions refer to fact.1. Something known to be true: something that can be shown to be true, to exist, or to have happened2. Truth or reality of something: the truth or actual existence of something, as opposed to the supposition of something or a belief about something3. Piece of information: a piece of information, e.g. a statistic or a statement of the truth4. Law actual course of events: the circumstances of an event or state of affairs, rather than an interpretation of its significanceMatters of fact are issues for a jury, while matters of law are issues for the court.5. Law something based on evidence: something that is based on or concerned with the evidence presented in a legal case
My definition of fact is a combination of 1 and 2….Something that can be shown to have happened as opposed to the supposition of something or a belief about somethingI say that Heaven and hell exist but not as a pie in the sky somewhere or a roasting place at the darkest corner of the world but heaven and hell are infact right here, right now and someone out there is living either one of them.Paradise is amongst us and if you want to live it then I suggest you start following every clue that will lead you to it, the same goes for the hell fire.The clues are quite easy to spot...Some of the clues for heaven are:Being the best that you can be morally, socially, financially, physically, mentally and soon you will enter paradise.
If you set a goal and align everyone of your efforts with your goal, soon you will experience an overwhelming abundance of everything..money, health, friends, ideas, charisma etc and you will be left wondering "I thought heaven was only found at the end of time!"..The ultimate state of bliss that everybody is striving for where disease does not exist, where everybody adores you, where there are infinite zeroes in your bank account, where every fantasy becomes a reality, that is what I call paradise my friend..But Paradise like truth is relative. Depending on how you view it, that's exactly how you are going to experience it. Paradise is a state of mind where everything is just sooo perfect and sooo heavenly.. I have been to paradise and back a couple of times before and I know that if I stay hopeful, I might get to see it again.
What about hell? Have I been there too? Oh Yes! More than a couple of times and every hell visit is worse than the previous one. The stay is usually longer and the days are a drag..like it was designed just so you could feel every discomfort and taste every bitterness..You want to know how I got there..I'll tell you how I got there..I was selfish, greedy, thought I was untouchable, thought I had life all figured out and that I could outsmart every trick that the life throws at me, solve every riddle and complete every puzzle.I did solve the mystery alright and complete the puzzle, but I got outsmarted in the process.For every step I took, life placed 2 steps forward, doubling count at every turn and increasing pace at the same time, until I was out of breath and could not keep up anymore.I lost because I was outwitted by the universe..but you know what, my loss was my choice.Hell is as a result of playing dirty and you might have won fights in the past, but that does not guarantee that you will win the battle.Here are a few clues that might mean hell is not far away for you..Lying, cheating, killing etc and killing does not only mean physical death, people spirits can also be killed and their dignity destroyed, health can also be killed by drugs, future destroyed by cheating and hope destroyed by lies. Which invitation are you using to RSVP your way into hell? Check yourself before you check yourself into hell. I have laid my facts on the line for your scrutiny and I know that you know somebody that knows somebody that has been through hell and/or heaven and have lived to tell the tale but I have not seen nor heard of anybody that has been to a physical space called heaven or hell and have lived to tell the tale. Therefore I conclude that heaven and hell are right here with us..and how you end up in anyone of them is entirely your choice.Choose your destiny well after all your are its master..Over and Out
Wednesday, October 17, 2007
Why 8th blunder?
8th blunder is an extension of the 7 blunders of the world list that Mahatma Gandhi created and gave to his gransdon shortly before his death. My first thought of the list was that it was brilliant but incomplete and if Mahatma Gandhi was alive he would have extended the list to include the 8th, 9th, 10th blunder etc.
In the blog I took the liberty of adding more blunders, but that's not all that the blog is about..detecting blunders..The blog is about positive untold stories that the media no longer writes about.
My blog is about reminding people that not all hope is lost. That we must keep on believing, stay positive and keep the faith and in time we shall reap if we hold on for just a little bit longer than the sceptics.
The 8th blunder is about returning the humanistic values to the people and planting a seed of hope in people's hearts. My blog is about decent reporting, dignified narration of events and fair story telling.
My blog is creating awareness around the" two sides to a story" philosophy that everybody knows about but no longer apply.
Today, people seem to be just okay with a single view to life which is usually the view of the media. Every media reporting these days is regarded as factual and fair with no validation necessary. The readers are eager to feast on every media dishing , no dietary requirements necessary..If food poisoning occurs, the insurance is there to settle all contigencies as anticipated..No sweat..No worries
Compassion, Ubuntu and empathy are a thing of the past in the world we living in. This truly is survival of the fittest.
"If you want compassion, see a psychologist", this seems to be the thinking of every money oriented mind today. "to hell about feelings" they say.. "Who cares about feelings when there's money to be made?" Hence my blog to restore sanity to those who sees value in it and to try and give back dignity to those who have lost it..in the most practical way possible. By bringing the world's blunders to people's attention. What they plan to do with the info is absolutely their baby..
Peace Out!.
In the blog I took the liberty of adding more blunders, but that's not all that the blog is about..detecting blunders..The blog is about positive untold stories that the media no longer writes about.
My blog is about reminding people that not all hope is lost. That we must keep on believing, stay positive and keep the faith and in time we shall reap if we hold on for just a little bit longer than the sceptics.
The 8th blunder is about returning the humanistic values to the people and planting a seed of hope in people's hearts. My blog is about decent reporting, dignified narration of events and fair story telling.
My blog is creating awareness around the" two sides to a story" philosophy that everybody knows about but no longer apply.
Today, people seem to be just okay with a single view to life which is usually the view of the media. Every media reporting these days is regarded as factual and fair with no validation necessary. The readers are eager to feast on every media dishing , no dietary requirements necessary..If food poisoning occurs, the insurance is there to settle all contigencies as anticipated..No sweat..No worries
Compassion, Ubuntu and empathy are a thing of the past in the world we living in. This truly is survival of the fittest.
"If you want compassion, see a psychologist", this seems to be the thinking of every money oriented mind today. "to hell about feelings" they say.. "Who cares about feelings when there's money to be made?" Hence my blog to restore sanity to those who sees value in it and to try and give back dignity to those who have lost it..in the most practical way possible. By bringing the world's blunders to people's attention. What they plan to do with the info is absolutely their baby..
Peace Out!.
I am who I am, I am an African,
I am who I am, I am an African,
I am not my practise and I am not my religion
Motho is who I am
Botho is what builds me
I am who I am, I am an African,
The strength of my being is expressed thru the humanity of my people
The essence of my existence can be traced back to the origins of their customs
Motho is who I am
Botho is what builds me
I am my spirituality, I am my people
I am who I am, I am an African,
Africanism is my spirituality and Africa is a place I call home
I am not my rituals, I am not my tradition
I am who I am cause I am God incarnated,
I am his image, I am his voice
Motho is who I am
Botho is what builds me
I am my spirituality, I am my people
I am who I am, I am an African,
I am not my practise and I am not my religion
Motho is who I am
Botho is what builds me
I am who I am, I am an African,
The strength of my being is expressed thru the humanity of my people
The essence of my existence can be traced back to the origins of their customs
Motho is who I am
Botho is what builds me
I am my spirituality, I am my people
I am who I am, I am an African,
Africanism is my spirituality and Africa is a place I call home
I am not my rituals, I am not my tradition
I am who I am cause I am God incarnated,
I am his image, I am his voice
Motho is who I am
Botho is what builds me
I am my spirituality, I am my people
I am who I am, I am an African,
Be anxious over nothing
Be anxious over nothing.. Do what you can do and as for the rest feel free to leave it to Infinite Intelligence to arrange. Everything will happen at the right time, in the right way and under the right circumstances
When faced with adversity
I am remembering every single day that the Lord will never lead me to a place where he can’t keep me, protect me, mold me, change me and give me victory
Florence Scovel Shin Quote
Thy will be done this day. Today is the day of completion. I give thanks for this perfect day. Miracle shall follow miracle and wonders shall never cease.
WHEN TO GIVE LOVE? An after thought
Is your giving based on whether your partner is doing the same or is it based on how well they receive?
Giving just like love is internal, your desire to give should be based on how deeeply you want to receive love and not dependent on whether or not the giving nature of your partner is aligned with yours.
Giving just like love is internal, your desire to give should be based on how deeeply you want to receive love and not dependent on whether or not the giving nature of your partner is aligned with yours.
Success Motivation
My success is not dependent on other people’s belief in me. Their faith or lack of faith in me will not deter me from reaching my goal. It would be nice for somebody to believe in my worth, but I am not going to stop living just because people are self-centred.
They have their own dreams to worry about and the only faith that matters is the one that I hold in my heart.
They have their own dreams to worry about and the only faith that matters is the one that I hold in my heart.
A Prayer of Gratitude
Thank you Father/Mother Universe for all that you have provided for me
If it weren’t for you, I’d still be without a job
If it weren’t for you, I’d still be without a home
If it weren’t for you, I’d still be without a partner
If it weren’t for you, I’d still be without a family
If it weren’t for you, I’d still be without money to spend
If it weren’t for your generosity, I’d still be living from hand to mouth
If it weren’t for you I’d still be without a car
If it weren’t for you I’d still be in my old job fighting for growth and recognition
If it weren’t for your mercy, I’d still be holding onto a grudge of an incident that happened two decades ago.
If it weren’t for you, I’d still be having an unforgiving heart and a strong desire for vengeance
If it weren’t for your wisdom, I’d still be held prisoner by the lack mentality. It is through your guidance and steering that I was able to see the abundant opportunities that had been lining up for me
If it weren’t for you I’d still be thinking that I wasn’t good enough nor smart enough
If it weren’t for you I’d still be thinking that my fate lies in the hands of others
If it weren’t for you, I’d still be blaming my parents for the suffering that I had to endure while growing up
If it weren’t for you, I’d still be stuck in a relationship rut and wondering how I was ever going to get out
If it weren’t for you, I would have never realized how stupid it was for me to live in the past yet hoping for a future
You said that your laws are consistent with each and every one of us and that they will never fail. I chose to listen and today I am seeing the benefits of my fellowship
I trusted in your word, and just like you promised, you delivered
Your wisdom has taught me to persevere through adversity, to be persistent in prayer, to stay positive until I receive and it is through your benevolence that I am proud to say that today I reap only because I listened
Thank you for all that you have done for me and for the rest of the miracles that are still to follow
I Thank You…I Thank You…I Thank You
You have changed my life for the better and for that I am so very very grateful.
And so it is.
Amen.
If it weren’t for you, I’d still be without a job
If it weren’t for you, I’d still be without a home
If it weren’t for you, I’d still be without a partner
If it weren’t for you, I’d still be without a family
If it weren’t for you, I’d still be without money to spend
If it weren’t for your generosity, I’d still be living from hand to mouth
If it weren’t for you I’d still be without a car
If it weren’t for you I’d still be in my old job fighting for growth and recognition
If it weren’t for your mercy, I’d still be holding onto a grudge of an incident that happened two decades ago.
If it weren’t for you, I’d still be having an unforgiving heart and a strong desire for vengeance
If it weren’t for your wisdom, I’d still be held prisoner by the lack mentality. It is through your guidance and steering that I was able to see the abundant opportunities that had been lining up for me
If it weren’t for you I’d still be thinking that I wasn’t good enough nor smart enough
If it weren’t for you I’d still be thinking that my fate lies in the hands of others
If it weren’t for you, I’d still be blaming my parents for the suffering that I had to endure while growing up
If it weren’t for you, I’d still be stuck in a relationship rut and wondering how I was ever going to get out
If it weren’t for you, I would have never realized how stupid it was for me to live in the past yet hoping for a future
You said that your laws are consistent with each and every one of us and that they will never fail. I chose to listen and today I am seeing the benefits of my fellowship
I trusted in your word, and just like you promised, you delivered
Your wisdom has taught me to persevere through adversity, to be persistent in prayer, to stay positive until I receive and it is through your benevolence that I am proud to say that today I reap only because I listened
Thank you for all that you have done for me and for the rest of the miracles that are still to follow
I Thank You…I Thank You…I Thank You
You have changed my life for the better and for that I am so very very grateful.
And so it is.
Amen.
Destiny Fulfilled
I am sitting here thinking about you
Thinking about what a rare treasure I have in You
In you I see light
In us I find salvation
In our union I observe destination
My adoration feels right
Your hesitation spells doubt
It drives my heart to palpitation
Palpitations accompanied by imagination
Imagination that make me wanna run a mile
A mile towards the river Nile
Where anything is everything but bile
But since I know what you are about
I’ll keep my faith and try not to shout
Simply wait and look beyond your doubt
Cos love is all what we are about
We are so close yet so distant
So together, Yet so apart
So united, Yet so divided
Divided in our minds
Yet United are our souls
In my heart I read determination
In yours I sense hesitation
Why focus on the mind when it’s the soul you should be reading?
Why attend to your brain when it’s the heart you should be feeling?
Dissapointment is a way of life
Forgiveness is the way to thrive
War not to be entertained
Peace must be maintained
Equilibrium to be attained
Anger must be absolved
Truth must be observed
That will be the day that destiny is fulfilled
Thinking about what a rare treasure I have in You
In you I see light
In us I find salvation
In our union I observe destination
My adoration feels right
Your hesitation spells doubt
It drives my heart to palpitation
Palpitations accompanied by imagination
Imagination that make me wanna run a mile
A mile towards the river Nile
Where anything is everything but bile
But since I know what you are about
I’ll keep my faith and try not to shout
Simply wait and look beyond your doubt
Cos love is all what we are about
We are so close yet so distant
So together, Yet so apart
So united, Yet so divided
Divided in our minds
Yet United are our souls
In my heart I read determination
In yours I sense hesitation
Why focus on the mind when it’s the soul you should be reading?
Why attend to your brain when it’s the heart you should be feeling?
Dissapointment is a way of life
Forgiveness is the way to thrive
War not to be entertained
Peace must be maintained
Equilibrium to be attained
Anger must be absolved
Truth must be observed
That will be the day that destiny is fulfilled
You won’t fail
Love teaches you the meaning of tolerance
Coz only thru acceptance, will you find the path
Only this road will lead to abundance.
Purify your soul, pour some love into your bath
Soak for a while, just don’t do it once
Let it in, give more than just an ounce
Let love be your stance
Without love you will fall
With love you won’t fail
In order to walk tall
You gotta play ball
Don’t put up a wall
Become a blessing to all
Give the world your all
Only one lesson there is to learn
Only one virtue there is to yearn
Without love you will burn
Burn in the fire of prejudice
Life is a game just roll with the dice
No warranty, No guarantee
Give love and pay no penalty fee
Open your heart and clearly you will see
Why you need love, why you must be
Bask in the aroma, love the spice
Love right and there will be no price
To Pay coz love is the way
With love you won’t fail
Coz only thru acceptance, will you find the path
Only this road will lead to abundance.
Purify your soul, pour some love into your bath
Soak for a while, just don’t do it once
Let it in, give more than just an ounce
Let love be your stance
Without love you will fall
With love you won’t fail
In order to walk tall
You gotta play ball
Don’t put up a wall
Become a blessing to all
Give the world your all
Only one lesson there is to learn
Only one virtue there is to yearn
Without love you will burn
Burn in the fire of prejudice
Life is a game just roll with the dice
No warranty, No guarantee
Give love and pay no penalty fee
Open your heart and clearly you will see
Why you need love, why you must be
Bask in the aroma, love the spice
Love right and there will be no price
To Pay coz love is the way
With love you won’t fail
Botho/Humanity/Ubuntu
Ga o na le botho
Batho ba tla go bona o le motho
Today I discovered the real meaning of humanity
Today I learnt the real definition of identity
Today I became an entity
As I began to embrace unity
To become one with divinity
He taught me that life’s only lesson is love
And fear was never meant to be above
Love, lerato, uthando is the destiny
That the creator wants you to reach
Love will lift you high
High above people, places and principles
Straight into the realm of the most high
Love is a great teacher
Love should be your only feature
Love shall set you free
Coz love is the only truth
Let it grow in you like a tree
Know it like the palm of your hand
Adore it like your most favourite band
Be loyal to it like your company brand
Follow it like the world’s famous leader
Practice it and soon you will get better
Better at treating your neighbours like they matter
Because ga o na le botho
Batho ba tla go bona o le motho
Only motho gets to prosper
Only motho acquires great wisdom and true knowledge
Without botho you are a nobody
But God wants you to be a somebody
So go ahead and acquire humanity
So you too can become one with divinity.
Batho ba tla go bona o le motho
Today I discovered the real meaning of humanity
Today I learnt the real definition of identity
Today I became an entity
As I began to embrace unity
To become one with divinity
He taught me that life’s only lesson is love
And fear was never meant to be above
Love, lerato, uthando is the destiny
That the creator wants you to reach
Love will lift you high
High above people, places and principles
Straight into the realm of the most high
Love is a great teacher
Love should be your only feature
Love shall set you free
Coz love is the only truth
Let it grow in you like a tree
Know it like the palm of your hand
Adore it like your most favourite band
Be loyal to it like your company brand
Follow it like the world’s famous leader
Practice it and soon you will get better
Better at treating your neighbours like they matter
Because ga o na le botho
Batho ba tla go bona o le motho
Only motho gets to prosper
Only motho acquires great wisdom and true knowledge
Without botho you are a nobody
But God wants you to be a somebody
So go ahead and acquire humanity
So you too can become one with divinity.
Spread the love, Spread the Unity
Quit trying to save me cause my confusion is your illusion
Focus on your delusion, maybe you will find a solution
God is your salvation, your truth is not sufficient
The tighter you keep squeezing, the farther I will scatter
Watch your motives and pay attention to your utter
I see you are looking down cause you are drowning in your shame
But still you wonder, if you should stop calling his name
You are feeling deranged, your thoughts are in a bad space
You struggle to maintain ground, your mind is on a race
Off it goes and away into a trance
Back to reality, that’s a truth you gotta face
The more I resist the stronger your urge to chatter
The more you keep squeezing, the farther I will spatter
Let me be myself, let me serve for the better
Stop the intolerance, let your objective be the latter
Get a hold of yourself, do away with the bitter
If you gather your thoughts and write him a letter
He will open his arms and love you like a father
Go ahead be a brother and love another
Cause yours is a love like no other
Be a joy to your neighbour, don’t be a bother
Be above, Practise unanimity
Spread the love, Spread the unity
Focus on your delusion, maybe you will find a solution
God is your salvation, your truth is not sufficient
The tighter you keep squeezing, the farther I will scatter
Watch your motives and pay attention to your utter
I see you are looking down cause you are drowning in your shame
But still you wonder, if you should stop calling his name
You are feeling deranged, your thoughts are in a bad space
You struggle to maintain ground, your mind is on a race
Off it goes and away into a trance
Back to reality, that’s a truth you gotta face
The more I resist the stronger your urge to chatter
The more you keep squeezing, the farther I will spatter
Let me be myself, let me serve for the better
Stop the intolerance, let your objective be the latter
Get a hold of yourself, do away with the bitter
If you gather your thoughts and write him a letter
He will open his arms and love you like a father
Go ahead be a brother and love another
Cause yours is a love like no other
Be a joy to your neighbour, don’t be a bother
Be above, Practise unanimity
Spread the love, Spread the unity
What is love?
I'll first talk about what Love is not..
Love is not a feeling because if it was then 90% of the people I know would be classified as "out of love".
The sad thing is that people still think that love is a feeling..to them love ends when the feeling is gone..I guess that explains why 50% of marriages end in divorce.
Love is not a feeling in as much as not every paper is money.
For paper to be money it must go through a specified quality process and printed all sorts of things, to qualify as money. The Quality checks and the specialised print gives it value which then qualifies it as money/cash..
In the same way, love attains its value from all the extra special things that a lover would do to appreciate the object of his affection. No pun intended.
Love is not a feeling in as much as paper is not money.
Love is an attraction towards another coupled by the choice and commitment to stay in the relationship even when things are not as rosy as they were in the beginning.
Based on this explanation I would define love as not the feeling of attraction but love as the maturity to remain devoted despite the wordly attractions.
Love is the wisdom to seek sincerity over infactuation.
Love is not a passing phase, nor is it stagnant. Love grows as people within the relationship also grow. Love just like a good bottle of wine matures with age, the longer it sits the better it tastes.
Love comes with the knowledge that a dented container does not necessarily mean spoiled contents because your package content may not necessarily be food.
Your contents may be of a long lasting nature and not as easily perishable as your common consumables.
Your duty in love is to find out what contents are your container and to reconcile the order placed and order delivered columns.
If no match is found, then you need to ask yourself if you can live with the discrepancy, if not then quickly discard without looking back. As you are doing this make sure that your assessment of the content is valid and that it was not based on superficial standards that have no bearing on quality loving.
If there is a match, then why wait for the opportunity to slip through your fingers?
Why wait to see if anybody else can spot your jewel before deciding on whether to keep it or not?
If you don't have the lotto IQ to know when you have hit the jackpot, then maybe you shouldn't be playing the game of love cause love only comes to those who seek it and to those who are wise enough to recognise the train for what it is and to stop it in its tracks just in time to catch a ride. I have played the lottery before and because I am not a lottery person, the two times that I have bought the ticket, I forgot to check if I had the winning numbers nor remebered where I had placed the lotto tickets. Not checking the winning numbers means that even if I win, chances are I may forfeit the prize by not claiming it. If that's the case, why continue playing the lotto and this is why I stopped playing.
I realised that there are three ways to win in the gambling game, Yeah love is a gamble, you were hoping that I wouldn't say it, but this blog is about the truth and I am gonna dish it out like never before...So here it goes
First, you must know your game really well and if you don't then you must develop interest in the game, do whatever it takes to learn the rules so you can increase your chances of winning.
Secondly, there are other methods of gambling that are more suited to your nature. Instead of adapting to the game, let the game adapt to you. Find a suitable game type for your taste.
Thirdly, Don't be quick to quit just because things are not going right for you in the beginning, simply apply persistence and calculated patience to your game strategy, and before long the prize will be in the bag
I know that love is a very sensitive subject to many(more to women than men because women feel that love is a losing game) and if you are a female reading this and asking yourself when love is coming your way, the answer is simply..which direction are you looking?
If you have always been checking west, maybe it's time to check east? If you have been looking down, maybe it's time you looked up, vice versa..Downgrade..Upgrade..do whatever it takes to get the match right. Take out your partner attribute wish list to check whether your list is still relevant.
Yesterday's taste may not be the same as today's because you may have grown or shrunk drastically and your wish list should reflect the changes in order to accomodate your rightful partner who could have undergone a similar transition. But you might just miss him and not catch him if you are using yesterday list to catch a today man.
What are you waiting for..Go and update your list right now..Don't wait another minute.
Adios!
Love is not a feeling because if it was then 90% of the people I know would be classified as "out of love".
The sad thing is that people still think that love is a feeling..to them love ends when the feeling is gone..I guess that explains why 50% of marriages end in divorce.
Love is not a feeling in as much as not every paper is money.
For paper to be money it must go through a specified quality process and printed all sorts of things, to qualify as money. The Quality checks and the specialised print gives it value which then qualifies it as money/cash..
In the same way, love attains its value from all the extra special things that a lover would do to appreciate the object of his affection. No pun intended.
Love is not a feeling in as much as paper is not money.
Love is an attraction towards another coupled by the choice and commitment to stay in the relationship even when things are not as rosy as they were in the beginning.
Based on this explanation I would define love as not the feeling of attraction but love as the maturity to remain devoted despite the wordly attractions.
Love is the wisdom to seek sincerity over infactuation.
Love is not a passing phase, nor is it stagnant. Love grows as people within the relationship also grow. Love just like a good bottle of wine matures with age, the longer it sits the better it tastes.
Love comes with the knowledge that a dented container does not necessarily mean spoiled contents because your package content may not necessarily be food.
Your contents may be of a long lasting nature and not as easily perishable as your common consumables.
Your duty in love is to find out what contents are your container and to reconcile the order placed and order delivered columns.
If no match is found, then you need to ask yourself if you can live with the discrepancy, if not then quickly discard without looking back. As you are doing this make sure that your assessment of the content is valid and that it was not based on superficial standards that have no bearing on quality loving.
If there is a match, then why wait for the opportunity to slip through your fingers?
Why wait to see if anybody else can spot your jewel before deciding on whether to keep it or not?
If you don't have the lotto IQ to know when you have hit the jackpot, then maybe you shouldn't be playing the game of love cause love only comes to those who seek it and to those who are wise enough to recognise the train for what it is and to stop it in its tracks just in time to catch a ride. I have played the lottery before and because I am not a lottery person, the two times that I have bought the ticket, I forgot to check if I had the winning numbers nor remebered where I had placed the lotto tickets. Not checking the winning numbers means that even if I win, chances are I may forfeit the prize by not claiming it. If that's the case, why continue playing the lotto and this is why I stopped playing.
I realised that there are three ways to win in the gambling game, Yeah love is a gamble, you were hoping that I wouldn't say it, but this blog is about the truth and I am gonna dish it out like never before...So here it goes
First, you must know your game really well and if you don't then you must develop interest in the game, do whatever it takes to learn the rules so you can increase your chances of winning.
Secondly, there are other methods of gambling that are more suited to your nature. Instead of adapting to the game, let the game adapt to you. Find a suitable game type for your taste.
Thirdly, Don't be quick to quit just because things are not going right for you in the beginning, simply apply persistence and calculated patience to your game strategy, and before long the prize will be in the bag
I know that love is a very sensitive subject to many(more to women than men because women feel that love is a losing game) and if you are a female reading this and asking yourself when love is coming your way, the answer is simply..which direction are you looking?
If you have always been checking west, maybe it's time to check east? If you have been looking down, maybe it's time you looked up, vice versa..Downgrade..Upgrade..do whatever it takes to get the match right. Take out your partner attribute wish list to check whether your list is still relevant.
Yesterday's taste may not be the same as today's because you may have grown or shrunk drastically and your wish list should reflect the changes in order to accomodate your rightful partner who could have undergone a similar transition. But you might just miss him and not catch him if you are using yesterday list to catch a today man.
What are you waiting for..Go and update your list right now..Don't wait another minute.
Adios!
10th blunder
Welcome to my blog and thank you for taking the time to know me because as you are reading this, you are reading me.
The stuff that I write in this blog is really my take on the happenings around me. and I am fully aware that my views are not necessarily the views of the majority but who wants to be common anyway? They say that you were born original so why die a copy. Your ideas are God ideas so why keep them from the world. God speaks through you and the only way to let the world know what God thinks of them is to tell them exactly what's on his mind by making your views public.
So, what's on God's mind today?
He just whispered in my ear and he says that right now he wants to address the 10th blunder.. and the 10th blunder is Truth without Interrogation..
Yeah..You heard me right...who says God does not want you to question things..
You have been lied to..by thinking that he hates open ended questioning?
God wants you to interrogate him because he says that questioning things is the only way that you are going to learn.
You must question your parents, government, employer etc but make sure that you do it in a respectful manner..Cockiness has its place especially if you are looking for a heartfelt "truthful" answer. I put truthful in inverted commas because Truth is relative meaning Truth is not absolute. What you perceive as the truth may not necessarily be the truth depending on which angle you are using.
To realise the truth, you need not take a position, but you need to empty your mind of all prejudice and rid your thoughts of all colouration and then listen..
Truth will never be realised by an opinionated person and the judgemental individual that thinks there is no need to search for the truth as he has already "got it".
Truth can never be for as long as you are..What do I mean by this?
I mean that truth is what fills your thoughts as soon as your mind stops thinking.
Truth is the visions in front of you as soon as your fed-memorytape has stopped playing.
Truth is the information that is fed a new mind as soon as its innocence has been restored.
Truth is what talks when all else has quietened down.
Truth is the only voice you will hear, as soon as the world has gone silent.
Truth is the freedom you will gain, the moment the usual five sense-pests are arrested.
Truth is who you were before you started placing too much significance on what other people have to say and downplaying your natural god-given abilities and talents.
The truth is what you will become the second you develop the courage to interrogate every truth that is presented in front of you.
That my friend is the beginning of wisdom..Contrary to the truth you might have been fed, the beginning of wisdom is not to fear God.. but to know him well enough to understand that he created you just as great as the greatest minds that ever lived if not better and to not insult him by thinking that he may have made mistakes on you.
That's it from me for now...
May God crown all of your hardwork with success and may you live long enough to see all your dreams all come true.
The stuff that I write in this blog is really my take on the happenings around me. and I am fully aware that my views are not necessarily the views of the majority but who wants to be common anyway? They say that you were born original so why die a copy. Your ideas are God ideas so why keep them from the world. God speaks through you and the only way to let the world know what God thinks of them is to tell them exactly what's on his mind by making your views public.
So, what's on God's mind today?
He just whispered in my ear and he says that right now he wants to address the 10th blunder.. and the 10th blunder is Truth without Interrogation..
Yeah..You heard me right...who says God does not want you to question things..
You have been lied to..by thinking that he hates open ended questioning?
God wants you to interrogate him because he says that questioning things is the only way that you are going to learn.
You must question your parents, government, employer etc but make sure that you do it in a respectful manner..Cockiness has its place especially if you are looking for a heartfelt "truthful" answer. I put truthful in inverted commas because Truth is relative meaning Truth is not absolute. What you perceive as the truth may not necessarily be the truth depending on which angle you are using.
To realise the truth, you need not take a position, but you need to empty your mind of all prejudice and rid your thoughts of all colouration and then listen..
Truth will never be realised by an opinionated person and the judgemental individual that thinks there is no need to search for the truth as he has already "got it".
Truth can never be for as long as you are..What do I mean by this?
I mean that truth is what fills your thoughts as soon as your mind stops thinking.
Truth is the visions in front of you as soon as your fed-memorytape has stopped playing.
Truth is the information that is fed a new mind as soon as its innocence has been restored.
Truth is what talks when all else has quietened down.
Truth is the only voice you will hear, as soon as the world has gone silent.
Truth is the freedom you will gain, the moment the usual five sense-pests are arrested.
Truth is who you were before you started placing too much significance on what other people have to say and downplaying your natural god-given abilities and talents.
The truth is what you will become the second you develop the courage to interrogate every truth that is presented in front of you.
That my friend is the beginning of wisdom..Contrary to the truth you might have been fed, the beginning of wisdom is not to fear God.. but to know him well enough to understand that he created you just as great as the greatest minds that ever lived if not better and to not insult him by thinking that he may have made mistakes on you.
That's it from me for now...
May God crown all of your hardwork with success and may you live long enough to see all your dreams all come true.
9th blunder
Dreams without values..Yep, that's my 9th blunder.
Every motivational speaker is talking about reaching for your dreams and not comprimising on what you want, but very little is said about "value systems" as you are chasing that dream.
We live in a very goal oriented era where the measure of a man is not by the size of his heart nor the sincerity and integrity of his intentions but today's measure of a man(women inclusive) is by the size of his wallet and the smoothness of his tongue, how quickly he can talk his way out of tricky situations, and anything less is not newsworthy.
What kind of a people have we become? What in the world is dreams without values?
How on earth can you go after the man of your dreams irrespective of whether he is married or not?
Why on earth would you want a promotion that would entail plotting and scheming for your colleague's downfall?
Why own a business if it means wealth acquisition through illegal means?
Why choose a career only so that you can be famous?
People need to wake up and smell the "integrity "coffee. I tell you that there is more to life than fun, cheating and selling your soul for a quick buck, a moment's high or for whatever need you want to fill.
A dreamer with a value system that does not include sincerity/integrity is like an apple tree that grows to bear rotten apples. You might get to eat some of them if you are lucky enough to plug them out before the rot spreads too far, but then again, what is the point of growing an apple tree whose fruits are useless?
The whole idea for planting the tree in the first place was so that you could enjoy all fruits and maybe sell some to generate extra income and if none of these objectives are realised, I ask the question again...What's the point of growing a "rotten" apple bearing tree?
To all those who blindly chase their dreams with full disregard of the consequences of chasing a selfish dream, all I have to say is that your dream is as good as the apple tree that we just talked about. All green, tall and healthy looking but with bad fruit.
Peace Out!
PS. If you fall into the category of self-made achievers who have grown accustomed to the acidic taste of the rotten apples, MAY YOU CHOKE ON THE NEXT ONE YOU EAT!.
Every motivational speaker is talking about reaching for your dreams and not comprimising on what you want, but very little is said about "value systems" as you are chasing that dream.
We live in a very goal oriented era where the measure of a man is not by the size of his heart nor the sincerity and integrity of his intentions but today's measure of a man(women inclusive) is by the size of his wallet and the smoothness of his tongue, how quickly he can talk his way out of tricky situations, and anything less is not newsworthy.
What kind of a people have we become? What in the world is dreams without values?
How on earth can you go after the man of your dreams irrespective of whether he is married or not?
Why on earth would you want a promotion that would entail plotting and scheming for your colleague's downfall?
Why own a business if it means wealth acquisition through illegal means?
Why choose a career only so that you can be famous?
People need to wake up and smell the "integrity "coffee. I tell you that there is more to life than fun, cheating and selling your soul for a quick buck, a moment's high or for whatever need you want to fill.
A dreamer with a value system that does not include sincerity/integrity is like an apple tree that grows to bear rotten apples. You might get to eat some of them if you are lucky enough to plug them out before the rot spreads too far, but then again, what is the point of growing an apple tree whose fruits are useless?
The whole idea for planting the tree in the first place was so that you could enjoy all fruits and maybe sell some to generate extra income and if none of these objectives are realised, I ask the question again...What's the point of growing a "rotten" apple bearing tree?
To all those who blindly chase their dreams with full disregard of the consequences of chasing a selfish dream, all I have to say is that your dream is as good as the apple tree that we just talked about. All green, tall and healthy looking but with bad fruit.
Peace Out!
PS. If you fall into the category of self-made achievers who have grown accustomed to the acidic taste of the rotten apples, MAY YOU CHOKE ON THE NEXT ONE YOU EAT!.
8thblunder
Humanitarian Mahatma Ghandi just before he died gave the following list of the seven blunders of the world to his grandson Arun Gandhi and they are:
1. Wealth without work
2. Pleasure without conscience
3. Knowledge without character
4. Commerce without morality
5. Science without humanity
6. Worship withoput sacrifice
7. Politics without principle
When I first read this list my first thought was "spot on" Mr Gandhi, "spot on". Talking about hitting the nail on the head. It can't get truer than this..but then I thought there's a one blunder missing from the list.
The 8th blunder in my opinion is Religion without Tolerance.
Religious superiority must just die a quick death as it condones segregation and undermines cohesion. God is for us all and he is not a possession of nor contained within a specific religion. Hence the word omnipresent meaning he can be anywhere, anyspace, anytime, alltimes etc.
You can call him all sorts of names like Allah, Krishna, Buddha, God, Ramasedi, Modimo, Thixo, Jehova, Jahweh, universe, higherbeing, higherself etc, that does not change who he is. Different religions are neccessary for different spiritual tastes and not because the Gods are different. He is one, he will remain one, you found him as one and no amount of devotion and worship can change that.
So if you are one of those who think that your religion is holier than others because it claims the majority of fellowship, then I have two words for you..GROW UP! and whilst you are it, GET A BRAIN. The next time you are down on your knees and asking him for all sorts of things, try asking him for an above average intellect, that will assist in understanding him better and that will teach you to not call people hethens, sinners and hypocrites etc. An above average person would easily understand that sin is not a permanent state of consciousness and that sin is a "mishap" that a young soul makes on its physical journey. I am gonna end it right here because I don't want to get spiritual with yall so early in the day, all I pray for is for this message and all similar messages to reach the relevant audience in time for them to understand that we are in this journey together and that the purpose of life is to serve others over and above for our other commitments.
Serving others simply means making other people feel good about themselves and that they can do better instead of making them feel bad by pinpointing every perceived error in their conduct.
Nobody is perfect including the "fingerpointer" and as long as a person is not purposely "living bad", none of us have a right to judge.
So my last words for the day is that respect other people's life choices so they can be able to respect and support yours.
I am out..
Tums
1. Wealth without work
2. Pleasure without conscience
3. Knowledge without character
4. Commerce without morality
5. Science without humanity
6. Worship withoput sacrifice
7. Politics without principle
When I first read this list my first thought was "spot on" Mr Gandhi, "spot on". Talking about hitting the nail on the head. It can't get truer than this..but then I thought there's a one blunder missing from the list.
The 8th blunder in my opinion is Religion without Tolerance.
Religious superiority must just die a quick death as it condones segregation and undermines cohesion. God is for us all and he is not a possession of nor contained within a specific religion. Hence the word omnipresent meaning he can be anywhere, anyspace, anytime, alltimes etc.
You can call him all sorts of names like Allah, Krishna, Buddha, God, Ramasedi, Modimo, Thixo, Jehova, Jahweh, universe, higherbeing, higherself etc, that does not change who he is. Different religions are neccessary for different spiritual tastes and not because the Gods are different. He is one, he will remain one, you found him as one and no amount of devotion and worship can change that.
So if you are one of those who think that your religion is holier than others because it claims the majority of fellowship, then I have two words for you..GROW UP! and whilst you are it, GET A BRAIN. The next time you are down on your knees and asking him for all sorts of things, try asking him for an above average intellect, that will assist in understanding him better and that will teach you to not call people hethens, sinners and hypocrites etc. An above average person would easily understand that sin is not a permanent state of consciousness and that sin is a "mishap" that a young soul makes on its physical journey. I am gonna end it right here because I don't want to get spiritual with yall so early in the day, all I pray for is for this message and all similar messages to reach the relevant audience in time for them to understand that we are in this journey together and that the purpose of life is to serve others over and above for our other commitments.
Serving others simply means making other people feel good about themselves and that they can do better instead of making them feel bad by pinpointing every perceived error in their conduct.
Nobody is perfect including the "fingerpointer" and as long as a person is not purposely "living bad", none of us have a right to judge.
So my last words for the day is that respect other people's life choices so they can be able to respect and support yours.
I am out..
Tums
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